How does Mediation work?

Mediation is a clear, flexible process that helps separating or divorcing couples make practical arrangements for the future in a calm, supported way. Sessions take place online, allowing both people to take part from a comfortable and private setting. It follows a structured framework that allows both people to feel heard and in control of decisions that affect their lives. Mediation supports thoughtful decision-making, reduces conflict, and helps you reach workable arrangements moving forward, with care and respect throughout.

Voluntary

You take part by choice and can step back from the process at any point.

Confidential

Conversations are handled with care and are not shared without your consent.

Impartial

The mediator supports both of you equally and does not take sides or make decisions.

Future-focused

Focused on finding workable solutions without the stress and cost of going to court.

A clear, supported approach from first meeting to agreements

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MIAM

An individual meeting with a qualified mediator to understand mediation, discuss your circumstances, and assess whether it may be suitable.

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Mediation Sessions

Joint sessions to discuss arrangements for children, finances, property and co-parenting, guided by the mediator in a neutral, supported space.

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Agreements

Where proposals are reached, outcomes can be clearly recorded, shared with solicitors if you choose, and used to support future arrangements.

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MIAM

A MIAM is the first step in family mediation. It’s a one-to-one meeting with a qualified family mediator to explain mediation and understand your situation. In many cases, a MIAM is required before applying to the family court for children or financial matters. Nothing discussed is shared without your consent. If mediation isn’t suitable or you choose not to continue, a MIAM certificate can be issued so you can proceed with a court application.

A MIAM gives you the opportunity to:

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Learn what mediation is and how it works

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Discuss your situation in private

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Ask questions and raise any concerns

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Explore whether mediation is suitable

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Mediation sessions

If both people choose to proceed after their MIAMs, mediation moves into sessions held in a safe, neutral setting, with the mediator guiding the discussion.

The mediator remains impartial and does not give legal advice or make decisions. Where needed, sessions can take place separately through shuttle mediation, allowing discussions to continue safely without direct interaction. You’ll be supported throughout, with clear guidance on any preparation between sessions.

Mediation sessions allow you to discuss:

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Arrangements for children

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Finances and property

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Ongoing co-parenting matters

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Agreements

About children arrangements

The table below outlines some of the key differences between mediation and court.

  • Cost
  • Time to Resolve
  • Personal Information
  • Emotional Conflict
  • Relationship Impact
  • Who decides your future
  • Role of the court

Mediation

Cost

£1,000–£3,000 per person

Time to Resolve

Often weeks

Personal Information

Shared with a small, agreed group

Emotional Conflict

Lower conflict

Relationship impact

Supports communication

Who decides your future

You decide together

Role of the court

Judge formally approves the agreement

Court

Cost

£15,000–£30,000+ per person*

Time to Resolve

Often many months or longer

Personal Information

Shared with multiple professionals

Emotional Conflict

High conflict

Relationship impact

Often escalates conflict

Who decides your future

A judge decides

Role of the court

Judge directs and decides the outcome

*Indicative UK averages based on guidance from the Family Mediation Council, MoneyHelper, and published UK family law cost information. Figures reflect typical low-conflict cases and exclude complex litigation.

How long does mediation take?

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Usually 3–5 sessions

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Mediation may be helpful if:

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